Because we honestly believe that solving all of our problems will automatically mean that we’ll have what we want.
Of course, that’s not how transformation works. If we have any intention of getting the next level, what we need is more compassion.
What we need is the willingness to see what is real about ourselves, without have to color, fix or soften it. It’s hard as hell. Acceptance, for most people, is a scary way to relate to our own imperfection. The willingness to turn off the problem solving impetus of our brain and just be with who we are, that takes practice.
Yoga has helped me in that regard tremendously. Because everyday, my body is a little bit different. Everyday, my joints and muscles and bones and limbs tell a new story.
And so, during each class, all I can do is look at myself through the eyes of compassion and accept where I’m at today.
No expectations, no judgments. This is it. This is what I’m working with.
Have you learned to be at peace with imperfection?
Scott Ginsberg is a writer, daily practitioner and workstudy volunteer at Bikram Yoga Park Slope.