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Buried under layers of defensiveness

Photo by Monica Felix @

Photo by Monica Felix @

What bothers me is when people come through the door fists and hearts first, armed to the teeth with an arsenal of excuses, ready to shoot down every opportunity that comes their way.

At our yoga studio, new students drop in every day with stars in their eyes, claiming that they really do want to try it…

But it’s just that they have sciatica and they don’t like the heat and it’s really expensive and their asthma might flare up and it’s such a big time commitment and work is crazy right now and if only they could convince their husband to come with them, then maybe they would commit to thinking about possibly considering the slim chance of potentially never going.

Drives me crazy. Not to be insensitive about people’s life situations, but if they really wanted to do it, they would have done it by now. That’s how motivation works. There’s no preheat setting. You either do something, or you do not.

But the liberating part is, I’m no longer in the business of convincing people. It’s not my job to overcome people’s objections about why they can’t do things.

When they’re ready, they’re ready. And if they’re not, that’s okay too.

Scott Ginsberg is a writer, daily practitioner and work study volunteer at Bikram Yoga Park Slope.